Special-Needs Children require Special Parents

One of my sons nurses brought me this article that she cut from the Daily Herald in Columbia Tennessee. I have the article from the newspaper and was going to type it, but low and behold when I looked it up on the internet, the exact article I found. So if you are a parent of a child with special needs or if you are not, please read this article and see what GOD brings us through daily…..It’s not easy but well worth it. #beblessed

Special-Needs Children Require Special Parents

September 29th, 2010 by Patrick Blair

Sometimes, people don’t take the time to think about what the parent of a special needs child goes through on a daily basis. They don’t think about the emotional pain and anguish, the physical pain and anguish, and the financial pain and anguish. They don’t think about why the family doesn’t go and do a lot of stuff with the whole family or take vacations, they simply know they don’t. And sometimes, those people don’t think that when they ask the parent of a special needs child “How are you?” and the reply is “Pretty good,” that the underlying answer is “I don’t want to burden you with all of my problems.”

Some time back, my dad gave me this “Dear Abby” article that he clipped from the newspaper. It’s been hanging on our refrigerator ever since. From time to time, I read it and think about how it applies to Donna and I. I thought it would be good to share with you all. Please read, and if you are so moved, share it with your friends and family.

Love to all,

Patrick

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Special-needs children require special parents

Dear Abby by Abagail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: On Aug. 10 you printed a letter from an aunt who was upset because her sister, the mother of a child with autism, doesn’t have time to join in fundraising with her and the rest of the family. While I comment the writer and her family for raising money for autism research, that woman needs to cut her sister some slack.

Very few parents (thank goodness for them, though) have the emotional energy, not to mention time, to advocate for their child’s special needs. I commend you for giving the writer of that letter the answer you did. I would challenge anyone who thinks he or she could “handle it” to walk a mile in our shoes. Our entire lives center around our children and their doctors’ appointments, therapy, special schooling, adaptive equipment, etc. The last thing we need to hear is some self-righteous know-it-all putting us down for something we were hand-picked by God to do.

SPECIAL NEEDS MOM IN ALABAMA

DEAR MOM: I heard from the parents of many special-needs children who echoed your sentiments. And you’re right – it does take a very special parent not to crack under the stress. Read on:

DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of two boys with special needs who are around his age, and I can assure you, that woman is already “very involved” in a way her sister cannot even begin to imagine. It is a labor of love that requires intense attention to their every action and potential need.

Perhaps “Raising Money” should spend an entire day being the primary caregiver for her nephew while trying to complete household responsibilities or work. I cannot tell you the number of times I have cried in my car out of sheer fatigue (I now carry tissue in the glove box).

The most charitable thing this aunt could do is to show up on her sister’s doorstep with dinner, an offer to do the laundry, and a long, comforting hug.

CINDY IN AUSTIN, TEXAS

DEAR ABBY: No one fully understands what a parent with a child with a disability goes through from day one. First there is the emotional aspect. We grieve. It’s not the kind of grieving you do after a death. This is grieving that never ends. It cycles over and over. If you’re not crying, you’re angry. Some days you can accept and breathe; other days you just can’t. Anything can set you back, and suddenly you’re sobbing again.

Not only is there the day-to-day caring for the child – feeding, dressing, hygiene, to name a few – but also phone calls, meetings, doctor visits, therapies. When the kids are little, mane of these things aren’t too bad. But as they get older, larger, stronger, it breaks the caregiver’s body and spirit.

There is also the problem of not being able to get the needed services. In many states, once children are out of the school system and on the waiting list for adult services, they sit and languish at home with NO services until they qualify for accommodations. In some states that can be many years. And there’s no portability of services between states, so if you must relocate, you go to the bottom of that state’s waiting list.

Living with that, we often can’t get or hold jobs. Day care is a huge problem for us and our kids. If that woman really wants to help, she should offer respite care and get involved with the waiting list issue, which is as important as research.

SONJA IN COLORADO

DEAR SONJA: In this time of draconian cutbacks everywhere, I hope our politicians will direct their thinking away from divisive politics and being re-elected to what must be done to help our most vulnerable citizens.

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The Freedom of a Calm, Cool and Steady Life ~~ Joyce Meyers 2/9/13

People are born to be free; it’s a gift from God. The question is, are you willing to go through whatever it takes to be free, or do you want to stay in the mess you’re in for the rest of your life? If you want to be free, the key is to start doing what God wants you to do, one step at a time, and you’ll eventually walk out of your messes.

In 2 Timothy 4:5, Paul told Timothy to be calm, cool and steady and to keep performing the duties of his ministry. That’s good advice for all of us.

Instead of being ruled by our emotions when we’re confronted with problems, we should calm down and focus on doing what God has called us to do. If you’re upset about something, instead of letting it ruin your life, turn it into something good.

Overcome evil and anger by praying for those who hurt and abuse you. Counter feelings of selfishness by doing something good for someone else.

Whenever the enemy tries to stir up your emotions, calm down and do what God has called you to do!

Prayer Starter: Holy Spirit, help me to be calm, cool and steady, so that I can be free to do the work that You are calling me to do.

The Best Way to Start the Day — with Joyce Meyers Daily Devotions

How do you start your day? Do you hurriedly get out of bed and barely make it out the door on time? Do you turn on the TV? Do you go exercise? Whatever your morning routine may be, the most important question you need to ask yourself is, “What role does God play when I start my day?”

It took me a lot of years to figure this out, but I now know that the very best way to start my day is by giving thanks to God for what He’s done for me and asking Him how I can be a blessing to other people.

I encourage you to spend time each morning focusing on the good things God has done in your life. Think about the dangers and difficulties He’s brought you through, the ways He’s healed you and changed you, and how good it is to know He cares for you and hears your prayers.

When you learn to set your mind on God each morning, He’ll give you all the peace and joy you need to live for Him as you go about the rest of your day.

Prayer Starter: Lord, I make a decision today to pursue You first thing when I get up every morning. Nothing is more important than seeking You and receiving Your peace and joy.

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