Help Needed

God gives and God takes away, Blessed be the name of the Lord. Job 1:21

Thursday night, September 8, 2016, before I went to bed I did what had become a habit, to go in Eman’s room, kiss him on his forehead and whisper in his ear, Mama Loves You…

Friday morning, September 9, 2016, God decided that it was time to bring Emanuel up to heaven with him so that he could do the things that he couldn’t do on this earth.

This is a out of the box step for me but I really need everyones help.  I’m asking for donations to help with the furneral expenses for Emanuel James Martin by the GoFundMe account or any offline donations.

This GoFundMe account for Emanuel was created in order to get him a new van but now God has saw fit to use it to help with his burial expenses.

Having a pre-existing condition can keep you from getting the important things like life insurance and we could not insurance Emanuel.

Click here to go to the GoFundMe account for Emanuel Martin.

The link still says van4eman, but it is now being used to help with the expenses.

Any help anyone can give us at this time will be greatly appreciated.

He was my Joy, he was my Heart and I will miss him so much especially that contagious smile of his.

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Thanks again everybody and May God Bless You All!

In Jesus Name, Amen

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Tears of Joy

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My special baby on his senior prom night..

It’s been a long time since I have posted anything to my blog but the Holy Spirit is leading me to post something today in my time of need.

On September 9, 2016, my only son, Emanuel James Martin, went home to be with the Lord.  He was 20 years old and diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy and MR at birth due to a Prolapsed Cord.  This story could be very sad for me but it’s not simply because of my relationship with God from the beginning of Eman’s life until the end.  See when Emanuel was born on March 21, 1996 he was flown to Vanderbilt Hospital in Nashville Tennessee after an emergency C-Section.  I was still at Maury Regional Hospital in Columbia Tennessee recovering for the next 3 days.  What’s so amazing about the number 3 is that the doctors gave Emanuel 72 hours to live.  My tears of joy come from the fact that not only did he survive the 3 day window they gave him, but he remained with us for 20 years.

Our relationship with God plays a very important role in how we handle situations like sickness, loss of income and death.  I thank God everyday for my relationship with Him because I would have lost my mind or worst a long time ago.  It’s hard when the family member is in a normal condition but it’s even harder when the family member has a disability.

To all the parents and caretakers of individuals with special needs or disabilities I salute you and will continue praying for you all.  Keep you heads held high and Never, Never give up on your Special family member or Special person you are taking care of.

Please continue praying for me and my family.

God Bless You All!

 

 

Are You Setting An Example?

1 Corinthians 7:9 ESV
But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

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I am going to say something that will probably put me on the HOT seat and cost me some friends and maybe family but when the Holy Spirit moves me to say something, I obey. I want to know what has happened to the institution of marriage. Yes, my marriage did not last, but I was on paper. Everyone these days want to shack-up with someone without a committment, even some older folks. What message are we sending our children today, “Oh, that it’s o.k. to live with someone and play husband and wife. When your children get old enough to date and move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend, are you going to allow it? Well, if you are living with someone and not married to them, you really don’t have a say so in the matter. If you are a TRUE Christian with a PERSONAL Relationship with the Lord, then you would never be able to think about living with someone because your conscience would eat you alive. It wouldn’t feel right. Ladies and Gentlemen please think about the message you are sending to this hurting generation that is coming up because if we don’t correct our actions and lives, they are not going to think twice because they will think it is O.K. Personally I was scared to stay over night, stay in a hotel, have a boyfriend in my bedroom or get pregnant when I was a teenager because I feared my parents. Yes, you might be from a single parent home or a single parent of teenagers but you can still tell them what’s right but only if you are living and setting an example yourself. Please don’t come try and take me out, I have a right to express my opinion and if I am wrong, I will welcome an explanation. I am doing what Pastor Donald Walker Jr. Ministries said on yesterday and “Walking It Out,” because I have tried the WORLD and the WORLD is not for me. I’m not perfect and sho’nuff no angel but Y’all getting ready to see the FIRE in me. No more playing just seriousness. #SayingWhatIsOnMyMind….#IfYouOnlyKnew….#ButGod

“Guarding Your Heart” ~~ Joyce Meyers

As you can see I’ve fallen behind a bit and these are really hitting home. This one especially I had to post because I’m sure each and everyone of us deals with this daily.

Enjoy your read and apply where needed.

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Proverbs 4:23 says to guard your heart “for it determines the course of your life” (NLT). Think about that. Whatever’s in your heart is eventually going to show up in your everyday life. Whatever’s inside will eventually find its way out, where anyone and everyone can see it.

That alone makes it extremely important to monitor the things we allow to shape our hearts. I don’t want something nasty, sinful, and selfish finding its way out and damaging my relationships with others, and I doubt you do either.

A large part of guarding your heart means learning how to control your thoughts, your words, your disposition and your general outlook. What you think usually comes out in what you say. What you say affects how you feel, and that shows up in your overall attitude.

In the course of everyday life, this is what determines how you handle your circumstances, whether you’ll have peace or fall apart in a stressful situation. It governs how you respond to others, either with compassion and understanding or with judgment and arrogance, especially when you disagree with them!

You can try and keep your inner thoughts from altering your words and attitudes, but I find it’s much easier to have godly thoughts to begin with. Spend time in God’s presence, and let the Holy Spirit fill your heart with His goodness.

Prayer Starter: Lord, I only want my heart to be filled with thoughts and desires that are from You. As I spend more time in Your presence and focus solely on You, I know that my heart will change for the better, affecting the rest of my life in godly ways.

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“Through Christ Who Strengthens You” ~~ Joyce Meyers

It’s been awhile since I posted anything but I went back and grabbed a devotional from early in the month. It hit home again so I felt that I needed to share it with the world.

God has really helped me to be content and able to handle any situation that arises in my life. This is good but sometimes scary but I know I’m covered. I hope this helps anyone reading to know that you too can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Philippians 4:13 is a very popular scripture that is often quoted out of context. It says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” That doesn’t mean you can just do anything you decide to do because you want to do it. Paul was talking specifically about how he was able, through the power of Christ, to be content no matter what his circumstances were.

I do believe that, by God’s grace, we can do whatever we need to do in life. I think that’s a mindset we need to have. There’s nothing that’s too much for you if you’re trusting God. You can handle whatever comes your way because God promises that He’ll never put more on us than we can bear and deal with.

So keep a positive attitude no matter where you are right now, no matter what’s going on in your life. Cheer up, God is on your side. Stop being upset about things you can’t do anything about.

God wants you to know that He has an individual plan for your life, and He wants you to accept His unique plan for you and not compare your plan with anybody else’s. You have to trust God knows more about what you need and what you can handle than you do. After all, He knows you better than you know yourself!

Prayer Starter: Lord, like Paul, I want my contentment to come from You, not my circumstances. Show me every day that Your plan for me is perfect and that I don’t need to worry.

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I Can’t Help It! ~~ Joyce Meyers Battlefield of the Mind Devotionals

Once again Joyce Meyers has hit home with me in my walk. This is for sho’ battling with my mind. But I refuse to let the Devil win and I hope I have friends who will stand by me and pray with me. This is a tough one to overcome, but it can and will be done.
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When God begins to deal with us about wrong behavior, it’s easy enough to say, “I can’t help it,” but it takes real courage and faith to say, “I’m ready to take responsibility and get my life straightened out.”

Much of our thinking is habitual. If we regularly think about God and good things, godly thoughts become natural. Thousands of thoughts flow through our minds every day. We may feel we have no control, but we do. Although we don’t have to use any effort to think wrong thoughts, we have to use much effort to think good thoughts. As we begin to make changes, we will have to fight a battle.

Our mind is the battlefield, and Satan’s primary way of initiating his evil plan for us is through our thoughts. If we feel we have no power over our thoughts, Satan will entrap and defeat us. Instead, we can determine to think in godly ways.

God has given us the power to decide–to choose right thinking over wrong. But once we make that choice, we must continue to choose right thoughts. It’s not a once-and-for-all decision, but it does get easier. The more we fill our lives with reading the Bible, prayer, praise, and fellowship with other believers, the easier it is for us to continue choosing right thoughts.

It takes time to learn to choose good and push away evil. It won’t be easy, but we’re moving in the right direction every time we take responsibility and make the right choices.

Pray: Powerful God, remind me that I can and do make choices every day. Please help me to monitor my thoughts, choosing only those that will help me overcome the devil and win the battle for my mind. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

From the book Battlefield of the Mind Devotional by Joyce Meyer. Copyright © 2005 by Joyce Meyer. Published by FaithWords. All rights reserved.

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And the people said, “AMEN.”

Special-Needs Children require Special Parents

One of my sons nurses brought me this article that she cut from the Daily Herald in Columbia Tennessee. I have the article from the newspaper and was going to type it, but low and behold when I looked it up on the internet, the exact article I found. So if you are a parent of a child with special needs or if you are not, please read this article and see what GOD brings us through daily…..It’s not easy but well worth it. #beblessed

Special-Needs Children Require Special Parents

September 29th, 2010 by Patrick Blair

Sometimes, people don’t take the time to think about what the parent of a special needs child goes through on a daily basis. They don’t think about the emotional pain and anguish, the physical pain and anguish, and the financial pain and anguish. They don’t think about why the family doesn’t go and do a lot of stuff with the whole family or take vacations, they simply know they don’t. And sometimes, those people don’t think that when they ask the parent of a special needs child “How are you?” and the reply is “Pretty good,” that the underlying answer is “I don’t want to burden you with all of my problems.”

Some time back, my dad gave me this “Dear Abby” article that he clipped from the newspaper. It’s been hanging on our refrigerator ever since. From time to time, I read it and think about how it applies to Donna and I. I thought it would be good to share with you all. Please read, and if you are so moved, share it with your friends and family.

Love to all,

Patrick

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Special-needs children require special parents

Dear Abby by Abagail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: On Aug. 10 you printed a letter from an aunt who was upset because her sister, the mother of a child with autism, doesn’t have time to join in fundraising with her and the rest of the family. While I comment the writer and her family for raising money for autism research, that woman needs to cut her sister some slack.

Very few parents (thank goodness for them, though) have the emotional energy, not to mention time, to advocate for their child’s special needs. I commend you for giving the writer of that letter the answer you did. I would challenge anyone who thinks he or she could “handle it” to walk a mile in our shoes. Our entire lives center around our children and their doctors’ appointments, therapy, special schooling, adaptive equipment, etc. The last thing we need to hear is some self-righteous know-it-all putting us down for something we were hand-picked by God to do.

SPECIAL NEEDS MOM IN ALABAMA

DEAR MOM: I heard from the parents of many special-needs children who echoed your sentiments. And you’re right – it does take a very special parent not to crack under the stress. Read on:

DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of two boys with special needs who are around his age, and I can assure you, that woman is already “very involved” in a way her sister cannot even begin to imagine. It is a labor of love that requires intense attention to their every action and potential need.

Perhaps “Raising Money” should spend an entire day being the primary caregiver for her nephew while trying to complete household responsibilities or work. I cannot tell you the number of times I have cried in my car out of sheer fatigue (I now carry tissue in the glove box).

The most charitable thing this aunt could do is to show up on her sister’s doorstep with dinner, an offer to do the laundry, and a long, comforting hug.

CINDY IN AUSTIN, TEXAS

DEAR ABBY: No one fully understands what a parent with a child with a disability goes through from day one. First there is the emotional aspect. We grieve. It’s not the kind of grieving you do after a death. This is grieving that never ends. It cycles over and over. If you’re not crying, you’re angry. Some days you can accept and breathe; other days you just can’t. Anything can set you back, and suddenly you’re sobbing again.

Not only is there the day-to-day caring for the child – feeding, dressing, hygiene, to name a few – but also phone calls, meetings, doctor visits, therapies. When the kids are little, mane of these things aren’t too bad. But as they get older, larger, stronger, it breaks the caregiver’s body and spirit.

There is also the problem of not being able to get the needed services. In many states, once children are out of the school system and on the waiting list for adult services, they sit and languish at home with NO services until they qualify for accommodations. In some states that can be many years. And there’s no portability of services between states, so if you must relocate, you go to the bottom of that state’s waiting list.

Living with that, we often can’t get or hold jobs. Day care is a huge problem for us and our kids. If that woman really wants to help, she should offer respite care and get involved with the waiting list issue, which is as important as research.

SONJA IN COLORADO

DEAR SONJA: In this time of draconian cutbacks everywhere, I hope our politicians will direct their thinking away from divisive politics and being re-elected to what must be done to help our most vulnerable citizens.

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